Lady’s Life Is Collapsing. Here’s Why She’s Doing It On Purpose
I know a lady who’s destroying herself on every level. Financially, health wise, relationship wise etc. She sits alone in her home…..depressed, lonely, isolated, fearful, dependent. She asked for some advice. I told her she was creating these situations in her life so she could purposely recreate the feelings she sat with inside her childhood. She felt depressed, lonely, isolated, frightened and dependent in childhood…..so she moves forward in her adult life, recreating her emotional safe zone from those early years. And although that sounds odd, our childhood emotional state becomes our safe zone, no matter how dysfunctional and problematic that turns out to be in our adult lives. There’s also a good chance this lady is destroying her life on all levels, so she does finally collapse to the floor in a child like state. To act hurt, helpless and dependent will always bring “real adults” (parent figures) to your side, whether they be friends or family.
The pattern of acting like a perpetual infant in our adult years, so someone else comes to care for us in our infantile state……is tied to something called “neotony”. Neotony is the scientific study of the infant like traits that help a parent bond to, protect and care for a baby. Many people who self sabotage today do this purposely (act like an incapable infant, who always need attention, help and protection) in order gather emotional energy from the people around them. These professional teenagers are energy vampires because they refuse to cultivate their own energy and charge their own battery internally. This is done due to laziness in most situations, simply because taking your natural rite of passage from child to adult takes hard work. You must also face many fears in the transition from child to adult. This hard inner work many just don’t want to do…..especially inside a society that glorifies the adult who continually acts like an infant. Look at our leaders today, nothing but children in adult bodies. This sort of negative role modelling through media doesn’t help lazy adults who want to take on the role of permanent child in their own lives. Adults acting and behaving like children or even infants is celebrated in our society and given non stop positive reinforcements. Regardless, explaining self sabotage step by step and issue by issue….helps people understand the motivation behind their own illogical behavior. After that, it’s just easier to make your life better.
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